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Unit Ten Text Are we too quick to blame and slow to praise? It seems we are. PROFITS OF PRAISE Janet Graham It was the end of my exh aus
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Are we too quick to blame and slow to praise? It seems we are.
PROFITS OF PRAISEJanet Graham
It was the end of my exh austing first day as waitress in a busy New York restaurant. My cap had gone awry, my apron was stained,my feet ached. I carried felt heavier and heavier.Weary and discouraged, I didn't seem able to do anything right. As I made out a complicated check 5 for a family with several children who had changed their icecream order a dozen times, I was ready to quit. Then the father smiled at me as he handed me my tip: "Well done, " he said. "You've looked after us really well. " Suddenly my tiredness vanished. I smiled back, and dater, when the 10 manager asked me how I' d liked my first day, I said, "Fine! " Those few words of praise had changed everything. Praise is like sunlight to the human spirit; we cannot flower anii grow without it. And yet, while most of us are only too ready to apply to others the cold wind of criticism, we are somehow reluctant to give our fellows 15 the warm sunshine of praise. Why - when one word can bring such pleasure? A friend of mine who travels widely always tries to learn a little of the language of any place she visits. She's not much of a linguist, but she does know how to say one word -"beautiful"- in several languages. She can use it to a mather hold- 20 ing her baby, or to a lonely salesman fishing out pictures of his family. The ability has earned her friends all over the world. It's strange how chary we are about praising. Perhaps it's because few of us know how to accept compliments gracefully.Instead, we are embarrassed and shrug off the words we are really sa glad to hear. Because of this 25 defensive reaction, direct compliments are surprisingly difficult to give. That is why some of the most valued pats on the back are those which come to us indirectly, in a letter or passed on by a friend: When one thinhs of the speed with which spiteful remarks are convey~i, it seexris a pity that there isn't more effort to relay pleasing and flattering comments. 30 It's especially rewarding to give praise in areas in which effort generally goes unnoticed or unmentioned. An artist gets complimented for a glorious picture, a cook for a perfect meal. But do you ever fell your laundry manager how pleased you are when the shirts are done just right? Do you ever praise your paper boy for getting the paper to you on time 365 days a year? 35 Praise is particularly appreciated by those doing routine jobs:gas-sta- tion attendants, waitresses - even housewives. Dn you ever go into a house and say, " What a tidy room"? Hardly anybody does. That's why housework is considered such a dreary grind. Comment is often made about activities which are relatively easy and satisfying, like arranging flowers; but not about 40 jobs which are hard and dirty, like scrubbing floors. Shakespeare said, "Our praises are our wages. " Since so often praise is the only wage a housewife receives, surely she of all people should get her measure. Mothers know instinctively that for children an ounce of praise is worth 45 a pound of scolding. Still, we're not always as perceptive as we might be about applying the rule.One day I was criticizing my children for squabbling. "Can you nez~er play peacefully?" I shouted. Susanna looked at me quizzically. "Of course we can, " she said. "But you don't notice us when we do. " 50 Teachers agree about the value of praise. One teacher writes that instead of drowning students' compositions in critical red ink, the teacher will get far more constructive results by finding one or two things which have been done better than last time, and commenting favorably on them. "I believe that a student knows when he has handed in something above his ,usual standard, 55 "writes the teacher," and that he waits hungrily for a brief comment in the margin to show him that the teacher is aware of it, too. " Behavioral scientists have done countless experiments to prove that any human being tends to repeat an act which has been immediately followed by a pleasant result. In one such experiment, a number of schoolchildren 60 were divided into three groups and given arithmetic tests daily for five days. One group was consistently praised for its previous performance; another group was criticized; the third was ignored. Not surprisingly, those who were praised improved dramatically. ThoSe who were criticized improved also, but not so much. And the scores of the 65 children who were ignored hardly improved at all. Interestingly the brightest children were helped just as much by criticism as by praise, but the less able children reacted badly to criticism, needed praise the most. Yet the latter are the very youngsters who, in mo5t schools, fail to get the pat on the back. 70 To give praise costs the giver nothing but a moment's thought and a moment's effort perhaps a quick phone call to pass on a compliment, or five minutes spent writing an appreciative letter. It is such a small invest ment-- and yet consider the results it may produce." I can live for two months on a good compliment, " said Mark Twain. 75 So, let's be alert to the small excellences around us - and comment on them. We will not only bring joy into other people's lives, but also, very often, added happiness into our own.
New Words
profit / n. advantage or good obtained from sth. ;
money gained in business 益处 ; 利润
exhaust / vt. tire out 使筋疲力尽
waitress / n. woman waiter
awry / a. with a turn to one side 歪 ; 斜
apron / n. 围裙
stain / vt. make dirty marks on 玷污
load / vt. put a full amount of things on or in (sth.)
装满
tray / n. 托盘
weary / a. very tired 厌倦的 , 厌烦的
discourage / vt. cause to lose courage or confidence 使泄气，
使灰心
ice-cream / n. 冰淇淋
dozen / n. twelve (一)打
quit / v. stop (doing sth.) and leave 离(职) , 不干
sunlight / n. light of the sun; sunshine
hmnan / a. of or concerning people
apply vt. 运用, 实施
application n.
somehow .ad. for some reason or other; in some way or
other 不知怎么地; 以某种方式
reluctant / a. unwilling 不情愿的;勉强的
sunshine / n. light of the sun
linguist / n. person who is good at foreign languages;
person who studies the science of language
通晓数国语言的人；语言学家
salesman / n. man whose work is selling a company's goods
to businesses, homes, etc. 推销员
earn la:nlvt. get in return for work or as a reward for
one's qualities, etc. 挣得, 赢得
chary / a. careful; cautious 谨慎小心的
compliment / n. praise 赞美(话)
vt. praise 赞美
gracefully / ad. 大大方方地；优美地
graceful a.
embarrass / vt. make awkward or ashamed 使尴尬
defensive / a. 防御的
surprisingly ad. in a surprising manner or degree
pat n. tap made with the open hand 轻拍
v. tap gently with the open hand
indirectly ad. in an indirect way 间接地
indirtct a.
spiteful / a. having or showing ill will 恶意的
convey / vt. make (ideas,views,feelings, etc.) known to
another person 转达 , 传达
relay / vt. 传送；转达
flatter / vt. praise too much; praise insincerely (in
order to please) 过奖; 谄媚, 奉承
comment / n. opinion, explanation or judgment written or
spoken about an event, book, person,state
of affairs, etc. 评论
vi. malse comments (on) ; give opinions
rewarding / a. worthwhile; worth doing; giving a reward to
值得(做的) ; 报答的
reward vt.
generally ad. usually 通常, 一般地
artist / n. person.who practises or works in one of the
fine arts, esp. painting 画家; 艺术家
glorious / a. splendid 辉煌的
laundry / n. 洗衣店
appreciate / vt. understand and enjoy; be thankful for 欣赏，
鉴赏，感谢，感激
routine / a. not unusual or exciting; regular 常规的,
例行的
gas-station n. 加油站
attendant / n. 服务人员
tidy / a. natly arranged 整洁的 , 整齐的
housework n. work done in taking care of a house 家务劳动
dreary / a. dull and uninteresting 沉闷乏味的
grind / n. hard uninteresting work 苦差使
scrub / vt. clean by rubbing hard, esp. with a stiff
brush 擦洗
wage / n. ( pl. ) 工资 , 报酬
measure n. an adequate or due portion 份儿
instinctively/ ad. 本能地
scold / vt. blame with angry words 申斥, 怒骂
perceptive / a. 感觉灵敏的
criticize / vt. 批评
squabble / vi. quarrel, esp. noisily and unreasonably 争吵 口角
peacefully ad. in a peaceful manner; quietly 安静地
peaceful a.
quizzically / ad. 嘲弄地; 疑惑地
drown / vt. cover completely with water; cause (sb.) to
die by keeping under water 淹没; 使(某人) 淹死
critical a. fault-finding 挑剔的,苛求的
constructive / a. helping 建设性的
favo(u)rably / ad. with approval 赞成地, 称赞地
favo(u)rable a.
brief / a. using a few words; short
margin / n. blank space round the printed or written
matter on a page 页边的空白
behavioral / a. of or relating to behavior 行为的
countless a. too many to be counted
arithmetic / n. science of numbers 算术
consistently /ad. 始终如一地 ; 一贯地
consistent a.
previous / a. coming earlier in time or order 以前的
ignore / vt. not to take notice of, pay no attention to
不理, 忽视
dratnatically / ad. strikingly 显著地
dramatic a.
react vi. respond 反应
youngster / n. young person, esp. a boy
appreciative / a. thankful; grateful
investment / n. 投资
invest v.
aiert-/ a. watchful and keen 警觉的
excellence n. an excellent or valuable quality; virtuePhrases & Expressions
make out write out; complete or fill in 开出 ; 填写
only too very 极, 非常
not much of a not a very good 不十分好的
fish out bring out after searching 掏出
shrug off dismiss as not deserving attention or as sth.
unimportant 耸肩表示对…不屑理睬
pat on the back word or gesture of praise or encouragement 赞扬;
鼓励
pass on convey (to another) 传递
live on depend upon for support 靠…生活Proper Names
Janet Graham / 珍妮特·格雷厄姆 Shakespeare / 沙士比亚 Susanna / 苏珊娜(女子名) Mark Twain / 马克·吐温
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